Things People With Anxiety Want Others To Know

So i've had anxiety since age 12/13. Age 12-15 was probably my worst time for anxiety. I've managed to overcome the worst by myself. 

But i don't think you can ever make an anxiety disorder just magically go away, i still have it. It's just no where near as bad now, i still get anxious in certain situations and i still stress too much about all the tiny things in life.

People with anxiety find life frustrating, especially when no one understands why you're acting so odd and making things awkward. It ends up making whoever you're around most of the time feeling frustrated too. 

So here are a list of things people with anxiety want others to know:

--We're sorry for saying sorry all the time, and we're sorry for saying sorry that we're sorry.. 

--We don't mean to make excuses for having to leave situations, but from experience we know saying 'i'm having anxiety being here' isn't always understood.

--It isn't just a mental state, bad anxiety days can be exhausting. From headaches, racing heart, hot flushes/rashes, shaking, nausea, dizziness, panic attacks (and more).. all that can be very very tiring and a big inconvenience.

--The most normal, smallest and silly things can seem like the end of the world to us. (Example: forgetting to take something that's not a necessity on holiday with you/Not doing something you feel you need to do to feel less anxious)

--No, we aren't crazy. Having anxiety is actually a normal part of everyones life, we just unfortunately get it too often.

--Sometimes all we need from you is understanding, nothing more. We aren't always asking for advice, help or sympathy. 

--If we push you away its not because we don't like you or love you, it's because we aren't feeling up to socialising lately.

--We somehow feel the need to control and organise everything! I'm guessing it's something to do with not being able to control the anxiety, so we want to control other things.

--So things being out of our control is also very stressful for us.

--A bad day is a bad day.. not much can make it better. So don't feel too bad that all your efforts to cheer us up hasn't worked.

--Being alone is either luxury for us, or a nightmare.

--We are always thinking of the worst outcome in a situation, almost like our 'instincts' to know when something is just not right, is way too sensitive. (For example: for an anxious flyer the sound of the landing gear coming down, actually sounds like the plane engines are breaking down. Or.. A family member isn't answering their phones, something bad HAS to have happened.)

 Our minds go in to overdrive and it's not something we usually can control.

--We probably will shout at you and get stressed/angry for no reason on a highly anxious day. But you should know.. we don't mean to. Promise.

--A bit of comfort food will always be a little help, so if you know we are having a hard time. Send the fave foods our way please!!

--Don't tell us to get over it! Don't tell us we are over reacting! Don't tell us that its easy to control!

--Do be patient, do be kind, do understand, and please do still love us just the way we are ♥

Living with anxiety, is a nightmare if i'm completely honest. But there are ways to improve your life with anxiety, it probably never will go away, as small amounts of anxiety is normal. Although with the right help and mindset you can start to feel happier, calmer and free from most of your constant worries.

More of a deeper, less up lifting post from me here. But anxiety is something that affects many people, so i thought i'd share my thoughts on something i knew a few people could hopefully relate too. ♥♥

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